It’s not often that you have one of those moments in life where all the planets or cards or packs of tofu come into alignment and you get handed a beautiful series of events that restores your belief in the power of righteousness. This is one such story. It begins with growing despair and anger, journeys through just plain weird and ends up with hope and unity. In fact, if I were a whole lot more trippy than I’m want to be, I’d start seeing rainbows and fairies and butterflies and other such items of joy, given how good this story ends. Given my particular persuasions, if you substitute the fluffy pink stuff for Xbox games, cupcake parties and collective vegan rants fuelled by buckets of ginger beer, you’d be closer to the warm buzz that this story ends with.
It all began with anger. My partner, Leif, and I don’t know any vegans personally. This is admittedly our fault, because we know they’re out there, but given our socially phobic natures and our comfort sitting safely behind a computer screen, we’ve relied on intermittent fixes via vegan forums whenever that feeling that we are the only human beings left on a planet of zombie like flesh-eaters rears it’s head. We don’t even post much on these forums; we just soak up the goodly soyness, like an injured computer game fighter restoring her health. Sufficiently glowing, we move on, until the battle wounds from the world drive us back again. This strategy seemed to work well for a while and then it didn’t. We did talk about venturing out there into the real world in an effort to find some other vegans, but we’re shy and afraid of disappointment (Lord Seitan forbid that we find real, live, vegans, only to have them mutter ‘I’m a vegan, but I eat honey’). Keeping the state of our deteriorating social situation in mind, here’s another important step in taking you through this story – Leif was looking for work. I don’t mean the kind of work that brings in the rent, I mean work of the meaningful kind. As an artist, he’s always needed to supplement his income and the last couple of years have seen him soul searching solutions. The work he was doing paid the rent, but it involved selling bread and pastries and this was causing growing ethical conflict between his need to economically survive and his philosophical foundation as a vegan abolitionist. I know that many of you experience this dilemma because the vegan forums that we take refuge in regularly discuss this issue. I watched him feel more and more depressed as he trundled off to work each week in his non-leather shoes and a variety of pro-vegan T-shirts – hey, someone buying the bread might get the message! Despite attempts to veganise the range of goods they sold, he still had to touch, sell and survive what was rapidly becoming an ordeal. He wanted a long term solution that would see him making his living in a way that allowed his values and his behaviours to align. If you haven’t gathered it already, he’s quality. Given that I’m a social worker and my area of practice is ethics, I felt compelled to help in some way, and having tried every career counselling skill up my sleeve, I finally resorted to what’s called the ‘miracle question’ in my profession (and frankly, I’m way too droll to go down this track with a whole lot of comfort). Asking, “if you could do any job in the world, without limitations, what would you do?”, prompted the following response – “Well, someone just needs to open a vegan shop in Brisbane and I could manage it”. For those of you living in Brisbane, you may have an inkling of where this is headed, but believe me, there’s a few surprises along the way. So, keeping that part of the story in mind, I’m about to unfold a series of really freaky events that takes us towards our victorious ending.
Trolling the Internet for vegan products one day, Leif alerted me to the fact that Sol Breads, a popular sourdough bakery here in Brisbane, had labelled a range of their products as vegan on their website. Cool. Only not so cool when you discovered that many of the breads labelled ‘vegan’ had honey in their listed ingredients (visualise smoke coming out of ears and face turning purple). Not able to let this go, we sent separate emails to the Sol Breads contact listed on their website and I decided to visit a Queensland based forum that I hadn’t visited in a long time, to alert others and encourage them to email as well. It had been so long since I’d visited this forum that I had to search around for my log in details, and given that my patience is fairly limited, I almost gave up. I must have been psychologically weakened by Sol Breads honey problems. Just before giving up, I hit on the right username, I posted my comment and what the hell, it was a slow day at work, so I lurked around a little in the forum and came upon the following thread – ‘New Vegan Shop opening in Brisbane, staff needed’. Given that I was raised in a household filled with pessimists, my first thought was that this message was probably from a year ago. When I found out it was posted the day before, I think I may have actually squealed (in a tough girl kind of way). After staring at each other in disbelief, Leif emailed the owner and we spent the rest of the day in a deep shock that only the power of quinoa could dispel. The next couple of days saw Leif setting up an interview, meeting the owner and getting a job. Unbelievable. More so when you consider that the owner of The Green Edge, a vegan sanctuary and provider of every vegan product you ever wanted (plug – http://www.greenedgeonline.com.au) turned out to be none other than Amanda Benham, whose work we had been reading for years. For those of you not familiar with Amanda, she’s a dietitian-nutritionist and QLD vegan legend. Anything with Amanda behind it will be ridiculously fabulous. So, vegan job in hand, you might think this ends our tale. But wait, there’s more.
On his second work shift, Leif meets Jud, fellow vegan. As you do when you work side by side all day, the usual pleasantries were exchanged, including where they lived.
“I live in West End”.
“Me too. Where in West End?”
“Gray Road”
“Me too”.
Pretty understated, and I expect if this conversation had have taken place between women, there may have been tears, given how isolated vegan women are for a good chick conversation between fellow veganistas. Jud proceeds to tell Leif that he has two other vegan friends that also live on Gray Road, conveniently located between his house and ours. All this time and we’ve been surrounded? Wait, maybe they eat honey. Being the cautious (ok, at times paralytically socially suspicious) people that we are, we may well have done nothing with this information for another twelve months. Enter the next little twist in the tale. That night, emboldened by the knowledge that we are not alone (think spooky X Files background music), Leif engaged in a little late night prankery that we like to refer to as ‘night time ninjering’ and whipped up a ‘Vegan Road’ sign to put on the existing ‘Gray Road’ sign. Why not? Next morning, I take a drive past the sign to check it out (it’s cool – see the photo?). I went past it and drove around the corner and realised I really should turn back and take a picture, in case some meathead took offence and ripped it down. Turning the car around, I approach the sign and find three people looking it at. Thinking I should probably wait in the car, lest these three take it upon themselves to fly into a flesh rage and attack me, I wait. Only these folk aren’t scaling the sign to rip it off, they’re laughing and taking photos of it! Out I leap and as it turns out, the three in question are Jud and his two friends, the delightful Nick and Phoebe, from down the road. Introductions are made and Nick and Phoebe, being the incredibly hospitable people that they are, invite us over to a meal that very night. We go. Which, given how reluctant we are to put ourselves out there, is both a testament to our increasing loneliness and a growing confidence in the belief that anything associated with the Green Edge shop is golden.
I think I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve instantly felt comfortable with someone. I need to engage the other hand now though, because in about four short weeks, I love these people. I get these people. They are smart and funny and vegan and talented and silly and a little odd and really vegan and they LIVE JUST DOWN THE ROAD. I have a growing suspicion that I will know these folks for forever and this is a little weird given that we really don’t know much about each other yet (although we do know an awful lot about which Xbox games we all like to play, Jud’s sweet tooth and the history of our tattoos). We play together regularly, which involves lots of eating and other such social relations that I’d almost given up on every experiencing with other vegans. We’ve met Eli, who along with Phoebe, has become my 13 year old daughter Ruby’s new gold standard for defining all things cool in women. And it’s different with vegans – it truly is. Sitting at a table with other vegans allows you to bring your whole self to the party, instead of locking down that bit of you that cringes when your friends tuck into their pig or cow or trying to conceal your discomfort when the conversation turns to the latest product or item that comes with an unhealthy dose of cruelty. I didn’t realise just how disabling it is until I had the unburdened joy of tucking into tofu kebabs with my friendly neighbourhood vegans.
If you’re the kind of person who likes to take a message away with you from a story, it’s not too hard to find the meaning in this one. Leif’s work at The Green Edge has enlightened him to the number of vegans who are out there, and trust those of us in Brisbane when we tell you, that veganism isn’t socially on the radar up here in the way it is in the funky southern states. Leif’s new mantra is ‘there are so many vegans in Brisbane’. Having spoken with our new friends (saviours?) and from numerous discussions on vegan forums, I know that we are not the only ones feeling isolated. As a social worker, I also know that having social connections (and as much as I used to tell myself that this includes online friends, I’m pretty sure it doesn’t) is a major indicator of well-being. Getting out there and meeting people is easier for some than for others, so if you’re feeling like your house is a vegan fortress, everything past your front gate is enemy territory and conversing with your cats is the ultimate in quality conversation, here’s the moral of my story in 22 words or less.
You are not alone. Whether you’re afraid, anxious or apathetic, find a way to reach out in spite of your hesitation.
A side message might be that allowing yourself to dream big and put what you want out there into the universe might just pay returns, but this makes me think of rainbows and fairies again, so you go ahead and take that one if you want. Me? I’m off to The Green Edge to pick up the entire range of Fry’s products for me and some Tofutti ice-cream for Phoebe.